Work towards what you want

How compelling are your goals for yourself? Are they attractive enough to encourage you to step outside of your comfort zone? If you always focus on what could go wrong, you will find it difficult to motivate yourself sufficiently to find positive solutions. Think about what you actually want and what is important to you rather than what you don’t want. Back this up by having a sound plan and working towards what you want. 1. Know what you REALLY want and what achieving the goal will do for you. 2. Express this in positive language; want to have… rather than avoid having… 3. Be sure the goal is under your control or take steps to bring it under your control. 4. Check that it is worth what it takes to get there and assess the impact on others. 5. Look forward into the future and imagine you have already achieved it. 6. Look back from this future to the milestones along the way and see how you got there. 7. Formulate your practical and specific plan; who, what, where, when, how. 8. Assess your own commitment and if in doubt, adjust the goal, or other parameters, to increase your level of commitment to achieving it. 9. Step out and start by taking the first step as soon as you can, no matter how small this step may be. 10. Act “as if” it were already true to keep yourself motivated and to have the maximum impact. Creating a compelling vision is Tip 3 in The Training Box book and ebook 52 Brilliant Communication Tips by Maureen...

Break out of the box

A belief is something we hold to be true about ourselves and the world – it is not necessarily true. Many beliefs come from our childhood, often heavily influenced by significant figures in our lives – our parents, family members, perhaps our teachers at school. We also develop our own beliefs based on our experiences. If these experiences are not always positive, or if others influence us with their own negative beliefs, our perceptions about what is or is not possible may hold us back. If you want to take up a new challenge, positive and empowering beliefs are worth their weight in gold. When you are preparing to step out of your comfort zone, you may find yourself in need of re-examining or even changing a belief that has become limiting in order to break out of any boxes you find yourself in. Beliefs are notoriously difficult to change through typical rules of logic or rational thinking. The first step is to recognise the limiting belief and develop a new, more empowering one to take its place.  When you want to abandon or replace a limiting belief, use the power of your mind. Try the new belief on for size and behave AS IF you already believed it. Take a look at the examples below: Limiting Belief: I don’t have much chance of winning when I play tennis I don’t bother to exercise because there is not much point. I know what will happen. My opponent will play much better than me and I can imagine the outcome when I lose and I feel dejected. I feel unmotivated....

The comfort zone and beyond

“Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.” Brian Tracy   Personal and professional growth do not always come knocking at your door – sometimes you have to go out and look for them. Staying where you are may feel comfortable, easy and even good. However, the downside of comfortable, easy and good is that they encourage behaviours that simply maintain the status quo and are unlikely to lead to change or anything new, different or better happening in your life. Staying where you are is an acquired or learned behaviour  that can be unlearned by overcoming the fears that hold you back and by developing your willingness to take action. Stepping out of your comfort zone can certainly be daunting and you may feel unsure about taking the leap. Following our tips will help to keep things in perspective. Examine your beliefs about change and find out what is holding you back. Beliefs are not set in concrete – they can be changed but you may have to work on them. Focus on times in your past where you have made a leap that turned out well or look for inspiration and encouragement in the examples of others. Keep the voice in your head positive and constructive – by all means, let it ask questions that help you prepare for the change but don’t let it hold you back. Develop a clear picture of where you want to go and what it will be like when you get there. Keep your energy...